A few months ago I decided to put my blog on the shelf. The life I was leading wasn’t congruent with the ideals I wanted to put forward here. As 2010 came into view, my 2 year long relationship ended, I was 6 months deep into a new job and really confused as to the direction I wanted to go. Things were happening around me and to me that needed my full attention to get through. Shit, I needed a break.
I should say that I apologize for leaving my blog to collect dust like last year’s gladiator sandals, but my apology wouldn’t be sincere. In life we let the “shoulds” dictate what we do and how we feel. I felt like I should be blogging, I should be shopping, I should wear this or that. Well fuck the “shoulds”. The time away from Stylish Thought was the only thing I should’ve done and part of me is sorry that I didn’t do it sooner. Like an increasingly hostile relationship, sometimes taking a break is the best thing for both parties. Or as a friend told me on twitter, “Don’t force it.”
The blog sabbatical has been the best fuel for what Stylish Thought is now and will become. No apologies, no shoulds, just plain writing from a woman who is learning to live stylishly on her own terms. It’s comical, heartfelt, stylishly unique and messy at times. It’s a lot of things but perfect is not one of them. I should be perfect, but I’m not. And my blog has taught me that.
It feels good to be back.
Dear fellow KU alumnus:
We never know which things in life will teach us the most valuable lessons… In this case it was your blog… And I am so glad that you decided to share your thoughts here on this open forum b/c there are so many great take aways for ppl from all different walks of life (imho) I know I have taken several and in fact have been inspired to write a new article for my own blog…
http://www.EverydayUplift.com
Thanx for sharing your story,
Lanard
Glad to see you back.
The “shoulds” are only constructs…usually constructed by us. Ignore them and do what you’re led to do.
*hugs*
@ M. : Thanks bruh! I’ll certainly check out Everyday Uplift
@ Alicia: Girl, our twitter chat helped me to just relax about it. Thanks for listening.
i’m tending and grooming my new little blognugget so that one day i can look back and see how far i have come. so i can look back and see how all of the chaos has come to crystallize. welcome back dear! i’m going to spend my time wading through your archives.
Ms. Thought, I understand exactly where you are coming from. A lil too often, “The Should’s” get me down. But some how, I always get back up ! And most times “The Should’s” block the way of the “The Could’s”. What’s gonna happen, should happen and if we keep lookin up it ALL COULD HAPPEN THE WAY IT SHOULD !!
Love you gal !
xoxo