We are creatures of comfort. We relish in having like souls near us; the warm words from our parents, sharing a good laugh with girlfriends and the tender touch from a lover. While we have the love and care from our family and friends, many of us are without a companion. We’re single and apparently not loving it.
Recently singer Rihanna, discussed her singlehood on the Jonathan Ross Show. She said,
“I’m not looking, [but] I would not tell you that [being single] is something to enjoy. Single life is just so overrated. It sucks. You always want to be single when you’re in a relationship, but it’s no bueno. I think that I have such incredible experiences that, you don’t want to live your life and meet someone; you want to share your life with someone. That’s what I’m missing right now.”
And it seems that Rihanna isn’t the only one who feels that being single sucks. Writer Niki McGloster from Vibe Vixen echoed her sentiments on being “super single”.
What happened to the days of the carefree single girl?
I’ve been single for nearly 2 years and it hasn’t been that bad. I’m alive and well. I have great friends, I manage to drag myself out of bed everyday and am a moderately productive, contributing member of society. I enjoy my life and while having a partner, lover and friend is on my life’s priority lists, not having it at this moment doesn’t make me want to die.
That’s not to say that being single is a cakewalk either. It’s not a Cosmo-filled adventure with sexy men and great shoes. It does get lonely and you have to do a lot of things on your own.
Companionship and relationships are necessary parts of life and when right they enrich us. The same should be said for being single. Getting to know you, what you want, what you will tolerate and how you will go about finding your mate are all by products of embracing being single.
In a perfect world, we would all have loving, adoring partners who contribute to our growth and share experiences with. But this is far from a perfect world and there are lots of reasons why we’re single.
My philosophy is that if you want a relationship you should make it a priority. If you feel that being single sucks, then by all means, make it your business to not be single. I commend women who know what they want and go after it.
For me, being single doesn’t suck. It’s just a signal that I have choices: I can lament my single status and let it define me or I can embrace it and let it propel me.