If you watch enough romantic comedies or read enough Cosmo, you’ll be led to believe that women are either:
A) Unlovable Lepers
B) Whiny, needy and pathetic
C) Waiting on a man to save them
Well you know what I say to that; BULLOCKS! For every love starved fictional female character, there is a kick ass woman who understands that love is great but it doesn’t make or break her.
Contrary to Lifetime movies, dating can actually be approached from a place of intelligence and fun and doesn’t have to be a mad dash to the altar. However the “rules” of the dating game so often leave us gals on the sideline waiting for the ever elusive “one”. So where are all dating “rules” for women who’d rather harness their own power than wait for a relationship to give it to them?
Here are 50 dating rules for smart girls who could care less about dating rules!
1. Trust your instincts & always follow your heart
2. “Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an institution .” ~Mae West
3. If he’s not dating you, he’s not sleeping with you…. (see #4)
4. Unless of course you want to sleep with him.. then do you boo!
5. Being single is not the end of the world: it’s the most liberating time when you can do what you want, answer to no one and fall in love with yourself!
6. Sometimes sex is just sex; break it to him gently
7. We’re independent, pay our own bills, change our tires and still want to be held; vulnerability makes you strong
8. Liking a guy is no excuse to act bat shit crazy… be cool gal!
9. Liquor & true emotion don’t mix… trust me on this one
10. Dating is meant to be fun; not a spectator sport
11. Love is only as complicated as we make it
12. Everything you need to know about him, will reveal itself
13. Girls just wanna have fun is more than a song; it’s a way of life
14. Your Prince Charming does exist; but you don’t have to be Sleeping Beauty waiting for him to rescue you
15. Respect is the minimum, disrespect is where to draw the line
16. Femininity is our gift; use it wisely
17. Sex and the City is a work of fiction, not a guide for life (learned this the hard way)
18. Don’t play hard to get, Be hard to get
19. Waiting for him to make the first move? Ask him out
20. A breakup does not equal breakdown. Can I get an AMEN?!
21. Avoid two things in life: cheap shoes and cheap men
22. Playing small doesn’t pay: Let. Your. Light. Shine. Girl!
23. Match.com doesn’t make you pathetic but sitting home waiting for the one will make you bitter
24. Confidence is Sexy; Independence is even sexier
25. Maybe you’re just not that into HIM
26. Having a date doesn’t Vali-Date you
27. Being a size 0 won’t make him like you and if it does… he’s a dick!
28. A woman will have multiple great loves in her life and each one should make her a better woman
29. No man is perfect and neither are you! Get over yourself!
30. “A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that still doesn’t mean she can’t have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones.”~ Cher
31. Paying for dinner and opening doors aren’t reserved for men, they’re reserved for people with manners
32. Don’t make your single girlfriends out to be catty, jealous haters
33. Relationships are hard work; know this and fall in love anyway
34. Speaking your mind won’t scare off the right guy, it will make him fall more
35. If you treat a first date like an interview, it will feel like one
36. You can only control one thing in a relationship: yourself
37. Be who you really are via @loveandtrash
38. Having a career, hobbies and a life are all prerequisites
39. There’s so much excitement in getting to know someone… take your time
40. A smile is the best introduction
41. Live and learn and be thankful you didn’t get Luvs
42. Men who write dating books for women have a special place in hell— Steve Harvey!
43. Don’t settle for less than butterflies— but you already knew that! 
44. If he doesn’t support your shoe habit, it’s not true love!
45. Being the best you will ultimately attract the best partner for you
46. Being picky isn’t a crime, being nitpicky is
47. Dating your self is great practice and teaches others how to love you (good one @StylisticTaste)
48. “Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them” - Sex and the City
49. The antidote to desperation is self-confidence.
50. At the end of the day, be honest about how you feel and walk away. If he’s the one he’ll run to catch you
What are some of your dating rules?
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There is no fear in Love!
if You are in Love, and nothing forbids You from trying out Love,
then why not!
The only two problems We often have are:
knowing whether We are truly in Love,
and,
trying to guess or envisage what the other person might say.
But We need not be mindful of these…
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if someone tricks a guy that hates them into liking them just to see if they can are they feeding thier massave ego what do you think phychology behind this is ? if someone dates a person on a dare is this cruel . if someone breaks up with someone and dont feel a hint of guilt are tehy evil ? I dont condone any of this but i am very curious as what all of you think about the matter ?
well; if she can lure him into dating her when he hates her and she knows about it; that means she’s looking for something-maybe the man is full of cash and all that
I feel like there really are not any ‘written rules’ for dating. Trusting your heart and making sure who you are dating is in line with the values of what you belive in and you are on the same page as far as what’s important is all that will matter to make a relationship develop out of a dating experience. Who Date, an app I have on my iPhone, helps me be honest about what is important to me and what I am looking for as well as who I am dating. No more blinders on!
If someone dates someone who hates them purely to see if they can score everyone what do you think the phychology behind this is , are they are sick consided person feeding their ego ? If someone gets payed to date someone and ditches them are they a heartless souless person , if someone breaks up with someone and doesnt feel that bad are they evil ? I just picked a few scenarios that ive seen happen and seem to happen often to various poeple not to say i aprove of any of these but i am asking opionion on these from what others may thinks ?
yes, sick, evil
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As a woman, I have to say…these are demented. Quite a few of them. I’m not sure we’re even speaking the same form of English at this point. I respect your right to do what you feel is best for you. However, I think you’re probably screwing a good chunk of us over by practicing some of these and having the opinions you obviously do about certain womens lifestyle choices.
I agree with Iz. To the ladies reading this article, proceed with caution.
These are just for smart women – the ones that would like to be in a relationship but are perfectly happy otherwise. Certain women lifestyle choices are their choices because.. hey we now have a choice!! surprise!!! If you don’t have anything good to say, then don’t say anything. If you respect the right to say what she said here, then why are you posting a negative comment? No one is getting screwed, if someone is going to change their mind about their behavior for something they ready online, they are already screwed honey.
I agree totally!
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I love this!!!
Speaking your mind won’t scare off the right guy, it will make him fall more
At the end of the day, be honest about how you feel and walk away. If he’s the one he’ll run to catch you
This is so me! and when I talk to some of my girlfriends about what I did or what I said, on a date or somthing, I get the “you shouldn’t have said/done that because then he will think…. (whatever)” I get so mad!! Why should I not say or do what I want wondering what he will think? He’s got to like me for who I am, not because I am following rules, and the “rules” here are not really rules, it’s just all about being ourselves and loving who we are, and if he likes it too then you are in a good path, if not, then he is not for you anyway.
btw I wa honest about how I felt and walked away, twice, he ran to catch me. That felt good, not that he was ran, but that he liked that I was being myself. I think he likes me.
sorry, I meant: “btw I was honest about how I felt and walked away, twice, he ran to catch me. That felt good, to know he liked that I was being myself. I think he likes me.”
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a few thoughts:
-love is a state of mind
-Life goals are the things in life that mean everything to you, the values you stand for, that you’re willing to sacrifice for. You can’t change them, they make up a person’s character. Know your own direction in life
-Infatuation is blind. Love is a magnifying glass. Love come from a genuine appreciation of who the other person is.
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