“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”
― Eckhart Tolle
It is no secret that change may be the most uncomfortable thing to deal with. No matter how uncomfortable, change is the only guarantee. Whether it be a death or job promotion, a bitter breakup or a move to your dream house, the birth of a child or the loss of a friend; your mind, body and soul does not react to the quality of the change, but to the change itself.
When your life is thrown out of balance, you’re vulnerable to experiencing feelings of anxiety, sadness, even depression. Why? Because when change occurs, an ending or loss is created. Within this, it is normal to be overwhelmed by the emotions activated by the change that you’re experiencing.
Moving forward you may have a hard time thinking positive or re-framing the meaning that you attach to the change. However, positive reframing is the key to effectively coping with change.
Ask yourself what the change means to you? Refocus your attention away from the negative feelings and in the direction of the possible positive outcomes that may follow. Use your imagination to find new meanings that can be applied to your changing circumstances and help transform your negative feelings.
Then it’s time to recoup, understand that in most situations the only person you can control is yourself. Take all the time you need to emotionally deal with life’s changes. It is okay to take time, as long as the time does not transform into dwelling. Remember, we are creatures of habit. Find positive ways to take your mind off of the change for long enough so you can think and adapt.
You are strong and chances are you can handle the changes that are occurring. Change can be a great thing! Roll with the punches and gain the experience from the way life moves you. You’ll be better prepared next time!