If I had a dollar for every time I heard a woman say “I need to work out” or “My stomach is too flabby” or “I hate my thighs” I would be a millionaire (this includes my own inner monologue of course). Society has bombarded us with a standard of beauty that says that a certain frame, body size and body fat ratio are the ideal. Television, music and movies reiterate the messaging that: Skinny is beautiful, Big is Bad. And what’s worse is that we have internalized this hogwash and let it dictate everything from the clothes we wear to how we feel about ourselves.
Well; the MADNESS has to stop! If there was one ideal body type, why wouldn’t we all be created as such? And if so, who said that it has to be a replica of Heidi Klum? The media perpetuates that tall, skinny and long hair is epitome of perfection and if you possess these traits, then life is a red carpet ride. Christina of Love Brown Sugar wrote a poignant post titled to Do Skinny Girls Have More Fun? In it she questioned whether being “plus-size” means you are miserable and if being “skinny” is really all we make it out to be.
Skinny Girls Get the Blues Too
For most of my teenage years, I was by all intents and purposes a skinny girl. I wore a size 2-4, ate what I wanted and didn’t worry about what I wore. However, I was not confident in my body and felt I needed to lose another 10 pounds and the “non existent” tire around my belly in order to be perfect. I endlessly rambled in my journals about my body and how it wasn’t good enough. Gosh the teenage angst of it all was ridiculous.
Fast forward many years and I couldn’t squeeze into a size 2 if my life depended on it and I couldn’t be happier. All of this is to say, that skinny does not equate happiness and insecurity has more to do with your head than your hips. Confidence and happiness come from within, no matter what the size on your clothing label says. Show me a woman who is confident in her skin and I’ll show you a woman who is an unstoppable force of beauty.
20 Ways to Love your Body TODAY
Loving ourselves and our bodies is a job best started within. When you believe on the inside that you are desirable, beautiful and whole, it doesn’t matter what you look like on the outside. Here are 20 Ways to start practicing self-love and body acceptance today! (not tomorrow, right NOW!)
More Love your Body Resources
How to Practice Major Mega Supreme Body Love -Gala Darling
9 Things Christina Hendricks taught me about Body Love & Confidence- Dramatis Personae
Why Don’t you Love Me? A Curvy Girl Ode to Outfit Posts- Love Brown Sugar
This post is dedicated to my little sister, who is an intelligent young woman, caring sister & kick ass animator!