Life is an obstacle course and sometimes we get over hurdles gracefully and other times we wipe out. It’s par for the course. But navigating life doesn’t have to be land of the unknown. There are so many resources (your parents, mentors, teachers, bosses) who would be more than willing to give you great advice.
And Christine Hassler may the perfect resource. An inspirational speaker and life coach, Christine’s specialty is dealing with 20-somethings and the issues we face. Graduation, new jobs, burgeoning relationships, self-love, you name it, she’s helped someone through it and with the Today Show, CNN and two books to her credit she knows a thing or two about 20-something life.
We recently spoke with Jill Esplin (a 20-something herself and life coach under Christine’s tutelage) about 20-something women, advice on living and navigating life with style.
1. Be Present: “The key to enjoying life is to be in the moment; in the joy and the upset. Everything happens there”
2. Don’t be Afraid to Make Mistakes: Jill says that playing safe is the surest way to not live. Don’t be so worried about making an epic mistake. Our 20’s our the time to experiment, fall on our faces and get back up.
3. Get Off the Internet: (after you read Stylish Thought of course): Jill says with passion, “You don’t find your passion online. You find it by doing it. So many 20-somethings think they can Google their way to a dream life. You have to go and explore”
4. Forget about Work/Life Balance: “I don’t believe in balance. Instead of trying to achieve balance, strive to be present.”
5. Stop caring about what other people think: Other people’s opinions are none of your business.
6. “Choose Me Before We”: Jill urges young women to put themselves ahead of finding “the perfect partner” Take 40 days to focus solely on yourself and see how more in tune with your needs you become.
7. Understand that Soulmates are Everywhere: “Soulmates are anyone your soul learns a lesson from”, says Jill.
8. Take the plunge: In our twenties, hopefully we’re not burdened with houses, mortgages and kids, so deciding to start a business or move across country is a simple decision. Ask yourself, what do you want?
9. Follow your passions; wherever they lead: You don’t have to quit your job but take small steps like starting a blog or a creative project and before you know you’ll be living your dream.
10. Don’t tolerate nonsense: “When your self-love increases, you can walk away from situations and people who not self-serving.”
11. Change your self-talk: So often we speak negatively about ourselves. Jill says in order to make positive changes in our lives we have to change our self talk and affirm our strengths instead of beating ourselves up
12. Take time to yourself: 20 minutes a day to chill, relax, breathe and stop the stress you may feel over life.
13. Understand, no one has it figured out: This is very affirming to hear from a life coach. Take the pressure off of yourself to figure life out and start enjoying life.
14. Get help, when necessary: Therapy may seem scary, but if you’re experiencing more struggle than you think normal or going through a quarter-life crisis, talking with a life coach or therapist may be just what you need.
15. Walk your Talk: This is harder said than done, but Jill advises that if you want happiness you have to choose happiness. Simplistic but true.
16. Assess how you’re living: Are you in a lackluster job, an unhealthy relationship? Examine what’s going on in your day to day experiences and take time to envision where you would like your life to go and set a plan.
17. Bookend Your Day: Start your day with silence and solitude. End your day with the same.
18. Embrace your Friendships: Friendships in our twenties hopefully build into long-lasting relationships. Cherish your friendships and embrace and nurture your girlfriends.
19. Make tough decisions: In a world of limitless choices, Jill tells young women to listen to their hearts and make a choice. Keep yourself moving, by making a decision and don’t get caught up in worrying about whether it was the right one or not.
20. Know that you can’t mess up your destiny! Or as Bethenny Frankel says, “All roads lead to Rome” What you do in between is your journey, embrace your journey!
My ladies, what are some things you would tell your 20-something selves? 20-somethings, what advice is helping you navigate life?